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The Social Shift: How to find your place

We are all on this crazy roller coaster called 2020.  As the shops open and the we dust off our ‘out clothes’ and life resumes to some sort of normality, I find myself sitting in a bit of a pause. Before the 23rd of March we would head out at least 4 days out of 5 in the week. Whether we went for a walk in the park nipped to Tooting to go to the Childsplay Brasserie and buy a few things from the shops or meet friends for a coffee/ brunch. Admittedly the latter was happening way less, as the twins were on the move and it was just such hard work.

I loved going out on Mommy nights, Mommy & Daddy dates, but now I feel hesitant. I received the ‘heart drops letter’ that I was on the high-risk group, so we were shielding. I am healthy except that I do not have a spleen, so my immune system is compromised. About 3 weeks into isolation my doctor called me back as I wanted to confirm the reason for being on the list. She asked me a few questions and decided that I could go to the medium risk group but still needed to isolate. I started to go out for solo walks or maybe take the kids out but never any shops and not seeing anyone, it was more for my sanity than anything.

The reality is that I got used to it, the isolation that is. We eat well, we work out, we drink cocktails and go for walks on the Common. I almost feel safe and the idea of going out meeting multiple people is even on a subconscious level very intimidating for me. It’s a weird one because I am not scared of getting ill, but I am concerned that if I do get ill, I may die. It really isn’t as bed a s it sounds when I say it out load, I mean surely it is a real fear. The media and old Boris haven’t said it all fine you can go out and you should be okay.

Then when we go out with 2 friends to Tooting Common and see people gathering in groups of 20, yes, I feel uncomfortable because we meant to be in groups of 6. Is it a social disorder? I know we all need to do what we feel comfortable with but really, I am wondering if anyone else is here, where I am or close? I am not a hermit I like/ like going out, shopping, eating in restaurants, so how does our future look ?

A question we must all be asking because it will not be the same. It should not be the same! This is our chance to pivot life. They used to say you can do that with your career, but literally we can do that for our entire socio-economic lives. I would really love to hear from you guys, if anyone is finding the ‘freedom’ hard to process.


Tooting Date Night

This is such an amazing area to live near! Not only for the links into London that the tube opens but the markets. If you are a local, you know all about it, but it is anything but boring to mention again. I think that it is still important to share these good experiences even though there are uncertain times ahead for us. It is in times like these that we should support each other and remain as positive as possible.

Tooting Market and Broadway Market were built in the 1930’s, similarly to the Brixton markets, these were fruit and veg, meat and fish market traders. Though there are many that have been there for fifty- or eighty-years, new traders have moved in to reflect the changing times.  There is a refil shop and a zero waste bar, restaurants, coffee shops and many more. It truely does reflect the community and London right now.

My husband, Matt, and I went for a night out recently starting with a glass of wine at Hennys. We love this venue for its simple and unassuming décor, whitewashed walls and intimate seating. The hunger was calling, and I knew I felt like a pulled pork burger from The Joint. The food was delicious! We had a bit of a spread so we can taste it all, see below.

The market really comes alive later in the evening, something we hadn’t see since the summer of 2018 due to being pregnant with twins and going to bed at 21:00! It could have been that the recent news about Corona that made people want to go out and meet friends and family before we went into lock down. The feeling was one of comradery and community. We stopped at Craft for an after-dinner beverage, my husband loves craft beer, he also home brews, and I don’t mind one myself. The guys serving us weren’t very happy that the Premier League has been postponed and had some opinions on what they should be doing. Everyone will have their own personal viewpoint and feelings in the time we can only be understanding of other people’s positions.

DJ playing outside Craft, creating a party atmosphere.

Outside the shop the DJ was mixing and playing a trumpet along to the mix, people were dancing the passage and just having a great time. Our evening was drawing to a close and we took a walk in the direction of home.


One last stop at the Goldfinch before heading home. It is such a lovely little bar, excuse the pun as that is what it used to be called. They make a great cocktail here, but I had a simple glass of Cava for a last drink. Just enjoying a bit of a laugh and chat with Matt. It was great and felt like we were dating again pre children for the brief moments we had away from them that evening.