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New Start, New You

Happy New Year is in order but already it has gone so quickly! The start of the month we took a break from drinking (alcohol), I can’t call it dry January as it was more of a dry 3 weeks.

It is long over due for this update as so much has happened. Pardon the radio silence but since moving out of London and getting the Life Coaching business (Create You Coaching) going there just hasn’t been much time around life, babies, and business.

Create You Coaching has started taking on clients and at present I am offering free sessions to gain some more experience and share what I have learnt during my course. If you or anyone you know is interested, you can DM on Create You Coaching’s Instagram account  or email me at createyoucoaching@gmail.com for more information.

At Create You Coaching I support clients in overcoming obstacles in their lives that limit their success, within work, parenting, and other areas in life. I do this by offering transformational life coaching bringing an awareness of self to clients and providing tools for them to use in their lives when working towards their goals.

The focus will be on my niche of parents of young babies or children, that are finding it hard to see themselves in the wonderful blur of parenthood. However I am open to working with people that are not in that catagory. I found that when I started doing the things that made me happy, strong, and healthy I felt better and could be a better Mom/Mum to my children. It was a goal of mine from the start to be the best parent I could be, meaning having enough mind space and lack of pressure to do just that. I want to offer techniques for people to set goals and dig into any niggly negative thoughts they are having so they can be the person they want to be.

If you know of anyone that could benefit from this, please pass on my details, and get them to message me to find out more.  Have a great weekend and looking forward to hearing from you or the people you recommend me to.

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Dummy days, no dummy days!

O wow this week is consumed by broken sleep, due to us deciding that it is a good time to take the dummies away! And I am doing a free course on mental resilience, every bit helps right. I love a bit of bringing in positivity into your life! Hence the silence on the posting front, but I am here!

Back to the dummies; I have been following my instincts a lot with Austin and Aria and listening to their needs. The same in this situation, I feel that they are understanding more and need the dummies less yet seemed more addicted than ever. They could now ask for them, look for them, point at them and I even thought they could smell them. I have removed them from the room now and they had some radar that said where there are. We only offer them at nap and bedtime, but they were creeping into the rest of the day.

Wednesday, day 3 of no dummies: At the weekend we took them away but gave them back at 3am mostly because I couldn’t deal with being awake but that didn’t work, as Aria knew that they existed so went ballistic when they were not given. Now we are forming a different bad habit, cuddling to sleep. In hindsight I see why they went down so well without lots of cuddles, DUMMIES! Hay do what works for you in the moment parents.

It is a little shame that we were basically at the sleeping through stage and now we are back to the start again. I am finding that you need mental strength such as you have never known during this process. Challenges all over the place; what are we doing you may think to attempt this during lockdown? Never one to stand down, I am holding firm but not alone, my husband is my rock in times when I am feeling like I want to falter or cave. I look to him to be our strength, do not forget that you are team. Always, but even more now that we are all staying home, do not be shy to lean on each other.

On the third night dummy free, after holding Aria a little before bed she drifted off, with no crying and they slept through. Me on the other hand found it so hard to switch off for fear of Aria waking that I feel like I was up all night. I think everyone needs to wean off the comfort of a dummy, even the parents. I believe that is where the battle is fought and won, it is us that want to grab for it when the babies can’t settle or at 3am when they wake.

Positively it is like we are growing closer to the twins in the way that we now get to cuddle them a bit longer to get them to go down and even seeing their little personalities blossom without the old friend we call ‘D’ in the house now in fear of the babies understanding and asking for them again. It’s a process, we not magicians it has been hard, and I am sure there will be a few more days of work in it. I remind myself that this is not permanent and the same can be said for anything challenging or difficult with children.